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6 Ways to Create Great Relationships
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Sonia Devine
Sonia Devine is a qualified professional hypnotherapist and success coach with a caring and committed approach to healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find more of her information on attracting wealth, self image, love, relationships, phobias and much more on her website Manifest Your Success 
By Sonia Devine
Published on 09/10/2007
 
Creating successful relationships with marriage and couples counseling is easier than you might think! If you need a little help sorting out your relationships or if you would like to know how to develop and nurture new ones, then all you need to do is look within. Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to creating happy, healthy relationships with the people in your life.

6 Ways to Create Great Relationships

Creating Love and Happiness

Creating successful relationships with marriage and couples counseling is easier than you might think! If you need a little help sorting out your relationships or if you would like to know how to develop and nurture new ones, then all you need to do is look within. Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to creating happy, healthy relationships with the people in your life.

ONE: Embrace Your Connection with the Universe

You, me and the guy next door are all made of the same stuff. We all co-exist in a collective consciousness and we are one in the same. When you learn to acknowlege this, you will truly begin manifesting love in its highest form. As you embrace your oneness with the Universe, you begin to realise that whatever you do to others, you do to yourself.

Relishing your connection with others allows you to have more compassion; it’s about knowing that no matter what, you are beneath no one and above no one. Don’t ever assume that you know more than another person, or that you are better than them in any way; appreciate what others have to offer you:

Everyone Has Something to Teach You


TWO: Let the Other Person Be Himself

You are on this planet to give and receive love freely and unconditionally. This means accepting other people exactly as they are, without trying to change them, which is one of the centers of marriage and couples counseling. Whether you agree or disagree with another person's point of view, don't waste your energy trying to prove that they are wrong! Everybody has the right to their own opinion, and you will only be creating conflict if you do not respect this.

If you don’t agree with the way another person is living their life, it’s not your job to make them see things differently. Remember:

  • We are all searching for the same things; peace, happiness, love and freedom
  • How each of gets to our destination is between us and the Universal Subconscious, and no one else.
  • Does your partner have habits that you would like to change? Do you believe that they would be much happier if they lived their life the way you think they should?

    You are with your partner to nurture their spiritual growth. It is not your job to change them, or to make them see things your way; it is your job to support them, by creating an environment that is free from judgement and criticism. You don’t need to understand why they do the things they do; allowing them to be themselves is the most precious gift you can offer, which is emphasized in marriage and couples counseling.

    THREE: Realize That You Don’t Own Anybody

  • Do you get jealous if your best friend becomes close to someone other than you?
  • Do you constantly worry that your partner might cheat on you?
  • Remember that what you put your attention on expands! With marriage and couples counseling, you can stop worrying about what the significant people in your life might be doing, and instead, give them the gift of space. The tighter you cling to someone, the more they will resist you ... so respect their right to freedom and they will never give you a reason to worry again.

    More than anything, creating an environment of trust is paramout to the success of any relationship. Demonstrate to your partner or friend that you trust them completely, and that you are happy for them to have their own life; the result? They will want to spend even more time with you! This is a prime example of marriage and couples counseling at work.


    6 Ways to Create Great Relationships (Part II)

    FOUR: Learn to Love Yourself

    You cannot love another person if you do not love yourself. When you have love for yourself, then that is what you have to give away. Focus on giving and serving others, and above all, resist any temptation to pass judgement. Do whatever it takes to increase your own sense of self worth; affirm daily that you are a unique and special person, and that you deserve to give and receive love. With marriage and couples counseling, these capabilities are easier to attain.

    FIVE: Own Your Feelings

    Do you begin many of your sentences with the words: “He makes me feel ...”?

    No one, and I mean NO ONE can make you do, be or feel anything. You are responsible for your own feelings and emotions, and in every situation, you have a choice. Starting today, assume full responsibility for yourself with the lessons of marriage and couples counseling. By taking ownership of your feelings, you will be creating success in every area of your life. Don't give your power away to others! Make the choice to take back that power; and teach yourself to say: "I feel ..."

    SIX: Respect the Law of Tenfold Return

    Whatever you give out comes back to you tenfold. Sure as what goes up comes down ...

    What Goes Around Comes Around


    What are you getting from your current relationships? Do your friends treat you with respect and nurture your spiritual growth? Does your partner say positive things to you? Maybe you find that the people you love are always criticizing you or putting you down. If you’re not happy with the status of your relationships, then you need to examine what it is that you are creating by experiencing the values of marriage and couples counseling.

    Start to examine your own behavior; are you guilty of criticizing others or creating unnecessary conflict? If so, make a conscious effort to change this. Begin to give away what you would like to receive.

    The more good things you give away, the more good things you will get back. On the other hand, if you approach your relationships in terms of what they can give you, then you will only continue to experience a scarcity of what you want. So make an effort to be conscious of what you are creating for yourself - marriage and couples counseling will help you to learn and grow.